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Self Esteem
Text Box: Low self-esteem is something that I have struggled 
with all my life.  Living with this condition has kept me 
from being the kind of woman God had intended for me
to be.  Growing up I was very shy and sensitive  and
very quick to get my feelings hurt.  Any kind of criticism
was taken personally, and along with feeling inferior, I 
felt afraid of everything.  I was  afraid of trying something
new; afraid of making myself look stupid and mostly
just afraid of failing.  What causes this circus of mixed
emotions?  The negative thoughts and hurtful comments
I believed about myself kept me from being the real me.

Words can build you up or break you down.  No matter what harsh words are thrown your way, remember they can only hurt if you let them.  Donít allow the world to dictate who you are.  Remember ladies: We are daughters of a King!  We need to focus on our value through the eyes of our King.  He created you and formed you for a purpose.  Itís up to each individual to rise above the negative self-thinking that sometimes permeates us.

God has blessed each one of us with abilities and talents.  It is up to us to nurture and grow those blessings and give them back to the world.  You were created with a purpose.  You came into this life with a purpose.  What tugs at your heart?  What captures your imagination?  What are you passionate about?  Pray about it and ask God for guidance.  I donít mean lip service; your request really has to come from your heart and be persistent!  God may not always give us the answer right away or tell us what we want to hear, but we need to be relentless in our request.

Building your self-esteem wonít come overnight.  The enemy is always around the corner trying to say or do anything to bring you down.  He doesnít want you to break out of this feeling of low self-worth.  His strategy is to keep you feeling down about yourself as often as possible to keep you from doing great things.  I donít know about you, but that makes me mad!

Here are some tips I hope will help you on your new outlook at just how precious you really are:

1.  Stop your negative self-talk.  Stop the harmful conversation you tell yourself.  Negative talk only brings down your feeling of what you are worth.  If you constantly put yourself down, you will start believing that you are worthless.

2.  Acknowledge your value.  Write down all your strengths and the special talents and blessings God as given you.  We can delight in our talents and gifts, even more so knowing that Christ works through those gifts.  He makes them more powerful than they could ever be on their own.  Donít get sidetracked from Godís truth and back into worldly thinking.

3.  Read scripture and uplifting literature.  Read an inspiring bible verses daily. Reading scripture gives you a greater sense of gratitude of our Heavenly Father.  Our Father (the King!) is in a partnership with us and promises to never leave or forsake us.  We just need to remember to keep Him close in our day-to-day lives.

4.  Donít tear down others.  Be careful what you say about people and negative talk that comes out of your mouth.  Gossip and negative stories can only cause hurt feelings and devastating blows to ones self-esteem.  This is especially important when speaking to little ones.  Childrenís feelings are fragile and causing them to feel bad about themselves can have lasting damaging effects into their adulthood.

5.  Pray!  Be in prayer constantly.  I silently pray to myself when Iím about to face a new challenge or strolling through the park on one of Godís glorious days.  You donít need to drop to your knees in the middle of Wal-Mart (but if it helps you, knock yourself out!)  I silently pray for guidance and strength to get me through the day.

6.  Be an Encourager.  Make it your mission to seize the opportunities to be a self-esteem builder.  Set the example by focusing on talents and traits God has placed in you and encourage and nurture others around you.  We often feel our lack of happiness can be fixed by getting from the world.  The real joy comes from giving instead of receiving.

Ephesians 4:29
Do not use harmful words in talking. Use only helpful words, the kind that build up and provide what is needed, so that what you say will do good to those who hear you.

7.  Donít base your worth on material possessions.  Real self-esteem does not come from what you can acquire.  Sometimes we can become disillusioned and think that material positions measure our worth.  That goes back to worldly thinking.  Your true value is not measured by your financial statement, job title or trophies.  Having peace and contentment with who you are is something no one can take away from you.

The answer to our happiness and peace within ourselves is in Jesus and His magnificent love for us and how He demonstrated that by dying on the cross.  Remember, we have been created for a purpose and all that lies within us is from Him.  God is the ultimate perfectionist and we should be content with how He formed us.  Have a sense of genuine self-love and respect for yourself that results from seeing yourself the way God sees you.  What better complement do you need than that!

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